The Stepmom Letters: Enough

To the stepmom struggling to know her worth,

You are enough.

You are enough, you are enough, you are enough.

Even though your house isn't always perfectly clean and you don't always keep your temper and you constantly question yourself.

I can promise you, your family is enough. Your efforts are enough.

You are enough.

I know that all people must feel this way sometimes - woefully inadequate - but I think stepmoms might feel it just a little bit more.

To be honest, I don't think society knows how much we just. can't. win.

"Spend time with the kids, but not when their "real" family wants to be with them."

"Head your household, but don't make any choices that affect the children."

"Take responsibility for your stepkids but don't get a say in how they're raised 50% of the time."

"Love them "like your own" but not like that - not too much."

We can't win and I'm honestly over it.

You are enough, stepmama.  You are enough when you are really rockin' this stepmom thing and you are still enough when you're distraught and crying (and then feeling guilty that you're crying) because you sometimes just don't understand the way your life is turning out.

You are enough, you are enough, you are enough.

Don't let anyone tell you you're not.  Don't let anyone tell you how to behave or what to say or how to love those kids - it's not up to them, it's up to you.

You know what's right for you and for your family.

You may feel broken and confused and frustrated and lost and painfully, painfully inadequate.  But you are everything you need to be as long as you are trying.

I hear you. I see you.  Keep trying, mama.

You got this.

You are enough.

Hi, I'm Grady! Welcome to my blog :) A little about me? I'm a smitten newlywed and brand-new stepmom living in New Hampshire. My day job is boring on paper but great in real life (just like Dunder Mifflin!), and when I'm not working I love to spend time with my family, perform in or manage productions at the theatre, and eat ice cream while listening to yet another financial management podcast.  I write about my marriage, step-parenthood, and whatever else is going on.  Be sure to follow me on InstagramFacebookTwitter, and Pinterest, and subscribe to my blog!

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